By Alan Titchmarsh 20 September 2015 • 07:00 am . August 24, 2015 August 24, 2015 rachelkitching Leave a comment. Nor a Prime Minister. they are also people who look hostile and kind of dickish. I have never addressed the Queen or another member of the Royal family as “love”. Do you think calling people the "f word" (gay insult) is OK? You can personalise what you see on TSR. CunningOperative Sun 15-Sep-19 05:48:57. Calling strangers "love" is second nature to Alan Titchmarsh, but is it offensive? these people who refer to me as mate are people who dont even know me. Dad beat me because I wouldn’t open the door, *MEGATHREAD* - The Ultimate 'Am I Good Enough For Medicine?' 1) Australian slang greeting between friends that is actually used quite often, although stereotype rejecting Australians claim we don’t 2) A person you are very close to, whom they trust above all others. Did you know the Organ Donation Law has changed? ), Official London School of Economics Undergraduate Applicants 2021 Thread, Applying to uni? 806 8067 22 Registered Office: International House, Queens Road, Brighton, BN1 3XE. why don't girls these days like being called ''birds''? Indefinite Leave to Remain & Fee Status (some answers), Help: Portuguese qualifications to UK qualifications. Find your group chat here >>. You are mates. It's a simple phrase which is being said everywhere and most people intend to use that phrase, examples "Cheers mate" "You alright mate" it is part of the culture. I do agree that it assumes a certain level of familiarity between the speaker and recipient, which you may not be comfortable with, but you should probably work towards getting over it because I doubt the word will be going anywhere. And yeah, also guys for a group of women. Me: Looking forward to later. I Actually Don’t Mind Being Called Mate. Leaving Islam was the best thing I ever did AMA, The Official Formula One 2020 Season Thread, Girls if you have any questions for us boys, we will answer. Why is their hardly any Hispanics in the UK? Terms of endearment - or control? I heard a bloke call the guy behind the counter in wh Smith pal and he wasn't impressed. No it is not an insult. I wouldn't mind people using the phrase unless it was used excessively or with abuse. Being called "love" by a lady from up north is their equivalence of "mate", whereas down south "duck" is more the norm. Me (49) got served by someone (20ish) in a supermarket. Here is a similar thread: /archive/2262661 I use the term good-naturedly – to both men and women – and can only hope that they are taken in the same spirit as they are given. Is it acceptable to say 'person of colour'?? Being called mate, hen, pal, buddy..... By killahclaire. Same as being called love, darling, sweetheart, duck and so on by shop assistants. 0 comments. What about being called 'mate'? I don’t mind being called ‘mate’ or even ‘love’ (both are common where I live), but I despise ‘babe’ and ‘hun’. The problem with being called mate is that the people who are already your mates with don't really need to use the term . whenever i get called 'mate' i find it very rude and offensive. it isnt a coincidence that i get called mate by the arrogant poser *****s in the gym and the nicer looking, more modest people don't call me mate. They are part of local custom and slip into conversation almost without thinking. (FIY - it really gets on my tits for the above reasons.) Do you get offended if people speak a different language near you? Is this something you would say to a friend? A friend of mine called them “germs of endearment” – those words used across the land to address folk we know and folk we don’t in equal measure. Do you like it or does it get your back up? Such terms vary according to geography. A person may only have one mate. well id prefer it to ****, ****, **** etc. Reply Prev 1 2 ... 4 5. of 7. UCAS uk application- How do I enter my U.S. grades? (Start typing, we will pick a forum for you), Taking a break or withdrawing from your course. ASIANS : Is it rude to ask brown asian people where their families come from? Learn more. Slang for "friend" used in New Zealand, Britain, Australia and Tasmania I know this only too well since, as a Yorkshireman, I have a habit of referring to those I know and also, I confess, those with whom I am not particularly well acquainted, as “love”. Why being called ‘mate’ might actually be offensive. It’s an interesting thought. I always feel uncomfortable being called "mate" or calling someone else "mate". John Zubrzycki is among the select few to have met Nizam Mukarram Jah. But I suspect there are others of rank who have, in conversation, been so addressed and I have not noticed them bat an eye. 😊, Official University of the Arts London 2021 applicant thread. I much prefer being called by my … Michael Winner's commercial 'Calm Down Dear' advertisement, David Cameron came under fire in 2011 when he said "calm down dear" to Harriet Harman, Emmanuel Macron told he's making a 'massive miscalculation' that UK will negotiate next year, Nobby Stiles' dementia caused by 'heading ball over a sustained period', Tier 4 Christmas: From Christmas Turkeys to being forced apart -Britons tell their stories, US Congress agrees deal on $900 billion rescue package, Tiger Woods and son Charlie finish seventh at two-day exhibition event, EU fears new Covid strain will explode across Channel. Jill Biden: How Joe Biden’s wife hated being called ‘Second Lady’ ... Mr Biden chose Kamala Harris to be his running mate, making her the first female Vice President-elect in US history. A few days later, someone from an all female garage called for a quote on a windscreen. The Student Room, Get Revising and Marked by Teachers are trading names of The Student Room Group Ltd. Register Number: 04666380 (England and Wales), VAT No. U 2 mate. Who else finds being referred to as 'mate' really rude and offensive? Read 133 reviews from the world's largest community for readers. Does anyone else find it offensive when a stranger such as a waiter in a restaurant calls you or your dh "mate" or "pal" or " I've been called love, darling and even babe by women at work, it doesn't bother me. Granted, it must be difficult for a retired major-general or hospital matron to be referred to in such an intimate fashion, but surely what matters is the amiability of one’s interlocutor who is, after all, trying only to be pleasant. © Copyright The Student Room 2017 all rights reserved. i find it an offensive term to be referred by. I've from the North and I don't recall ever being called love by a man. A level - German Abitur Grade equivalents, Americans applying to university in the UK, Yes, it should be delayed as long as it needs to be, School should be online until they are prepared for testing, More support should be given by the government so school can start on time, Something else (let us know in the thread! Thoughts please. Are any of you offended by this word as much as I am? who else feels this way? As Australians we’ve grown up accepting ‘mate’ as a part our own lingo but what does it actually mean? Male etiquette, being called 'mate', how to interact with men politely in public without using 'feminine' language?? In Derby, you are likely to be referred to as “me duck” and in the West Country as “my lover”. I might even give it a name like Paul. Are East Asian guys atttacted to Somali girls? Have a good day, handsome :-) Him: Same. In surely one of the most unsavoury episodes ever witnessed on a training ground, one former Walsall player has spoken about the time he was called a terrorist by a team-mate. save. AMA. Harvester: A pet hate, being called 'mate' - See 405 traveller reviews, 56 candid photos, and great deals for Bromborough, UK, at Tripadvisor. Therefore you don't need to state that you are mates. Cheers mate. It's kind of an unspoken thing. It's a certain culture that people get brought up in, and to the people saying it to you it's just like saying hello - it can have positive or negative implications, but in itself it isn't offensive. etc. Tell me why being called a 'paki' is offensive? I hope this discussion does have some relevence to the country and culture you live in but here is Scotland it is common to be called mate or buddy instead of your name by others. Lord Attenborough addressed almost everyone he knew as “darling” because he said he was hopeless at remembering names. I don't like the term, but it's a bit far to say that it's offensive. Called me mate on the three occasions. If YOU ARE A JAMAICAN, DO YOU FEEL THAT YOU ARE AFRICAN? Americans of course have different ways and different expressions to over our side of the pond? i'm not sure but i do. I had a customer at work threaten to make an official complaint cos someone else who worked there called him mate, so I guess you are not alone OP. Tell us a little about yourself to get started. Yep, I can’t say I never achieved anything in my life. Seriously though, it's getting boring. it's hardly a positive term. There are times, of course, when such familiarity is highly inappropriate. When do student finance applications open. Aug 19, 2020 - Being called "mate" by an Australian Being called "love" by a Brit Being called "sweetheart" by a Being called "son" by a grandpa Meowing at a cat and it meowing back – popular memes on the site ifunny.co This thread wont end well mate! i've been getting called mate by people who have served me in shops and bus drivers. See you at xxxxxxxx for 7:30 :-) FYI yesterday he called me 'handsome man' in a text Age difference, customer service language, over familiarity. Sadly, I haven’t been able to find a mate called Ant, but their relationship actually reminds me of mine, with my best friend Daniel. My pet hate is folks especially when it's spelt folx. How are we supposed to refer to black people? I recall this exact question being asked ages ago (or maybe it was "buddy"). Why us British are so boring compared to other cultures! usually in the gym someone asks 'have you got many sets left mate?' Add message | Report | See all. Being a classless bully as normal then eh deem? Now, I'm not offended at all but I am questioning it. It's like being called "mate" or "dude" or "love" (lots of English people call both males and females "love). Being called "mate" by an Australian Being called "love" by a Brit Being called "sweetheart" by a Being called "son" by a grandpa Meowing at a cat and it meowing back – popular memes on the site ifunny.co or 'are you using that equipment mate?'. Can gay people be offensive towards straight people? It didn't take her long to refer to me as mate too. It seems to me to say much more about the recipient of such a form of address if they take it as an insult and an affront to their dignity. Where I'm living it's common to be called mate or mush by men and sometimes women. I know some people take exception to being called mate just generally, but it is generally considered by most people a polite way for most men to address most other men they dont know. Perhaps if our politicians referred to each other as “love” or “darling”, then they might get along rather better. Guys, please stop saying 'bro', 'dude', and 'mate' Men only use "bro" to add a layer of sugar over a hard nugget of compressed fertiliser. I hope they make allowances for my local patois and do not assume that I am regarding them as some inferior minion, or that I am claiming a closer affinity than I deserve. His habit became a trademark and endeared him to all and sundry. Is being called "love" or "mate" by strangers offensive? @killahclaire (3668) March 28, 2007 5:07pm CST. Being called Mate by a stranger. i cant be the only one who thinks this. it's nearly 12am and I still don't understand photosynthesis and respiration. etc. Are you guilty of doing it and when is it okay, and when not? Is using the blanket term 'Blacks' or 'Whites' offensive? What's Wrong with Being Called Mate? Why is it offensive to call a Pakistani a "Paki"? Angst Thread MK IV. ... even when he is being a gigantic prat. Dunno why, something about it just prevents me from using the word at all without feeling ridiculous. 7 ... Having recently moved to the Midlands I am having to get used to being called 'duck' by other men! We're so reserved!! Example: 1) G'day Mate 2) Person A: Mate did I tell you what that Sheila said to me yesterday?Person B: Nah mate, here sit down and tell me over a beer How do you feel about being called 'honey', 'mate' 'love' 'dearest' or 'darling' in a work setting or when you're obtaining a professional service from a medic, a mechanic, a uni tutor, a charity or a chemist? It's a positive term, why would it offend me? Respectful or too relaxed? Quite urgent please. You may bridle when a shop assistant calls you “dear”, but I don’t mind a jot when someone I don’t know from Adam (or Eve) acknowledges me as “mate” or “guv”. called definition: 1. past simple and past participle of call 2. to give someone or something a name, or to know or…. I have the ugliest pinky. Say the first word that you think of when you see the word above, Finally finished my exams today! How do you cope with the guilt of leaving your parents? Called to Mate book. We have a brilliant team of more than 60 Support Team members looking after discussions on The Student Room, helping to make it a fun, safe and useful place to hang out. Stereotypical Australian saying. I'd think it was very strange if I was. Lukus 31 Oct 2006 19:23:29 23,704 posts Seen 24 minutes ago Registered 16 years ago Are the recipients of the word actually your mate or can anyone be called mate? But is it ever OK to say it to a woman? 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